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And I sat alone during lunch.
And I didn’t feel like I belonged since the day I walked into middle school and everyone seemed to have “their people” except for me. This feeling of being the only one without her “people” lasted all through middle school, high school, and my short few months in college—partially dropping out because, once again, I didn’t feel like I belonged.
Right about when I solidified that I didn’t belong was when I started deeply studying psychology + sociology so that I could become likable. For years, I played the “class clown”, the “jester” archetype, and later on became an “entertainer” on social media. I knew that I could cover up the pain by showcasing *only* the good parts of me. I knew people liked being entertained so that was really the only part I allowed myself to show.
One day, it hit me: people don’t like *me*, they like what I do for them. Once again, I didn’t belong. I was just a source of entertainment. “My people” weren’t “my people”, they were there to laugh. The 400k people I had following me weren’t my “friends”, they were people looking to be entertained.
So, now I’m here. Many ego deaths later. Many lonely nights later.
And all I want is to allow myself to show up authentically and *truly* belong while being a mirror for others that they can, too. Your people are out here. Your authenticity is powerful—not something that should be hidden. Loneliness is one of the most painful emotions one can feel. And the lies we tell ourselves to keep ourselves hidden are bullshit. They’re just trying to keep us “safe”.
Our core need is to belong. I invite you to stop living in those stores that tell you that you’re too much, not enough, or not worthy of belonging. You’re no longer that twelve year old. You’re an adult who has full power to *choose* to come out of the dark that you’ve been hiding in. It’s scary—but what’s even scarier is a life full of loneliness.
flashback
”I liked San Diego, why not?”
Moving out of state
Started OF
10x my income in 3 months
Finding out what *didn’t* work” - Traveled to find happiness (not even Hawaii worked)
**CHANGE**
flashback
”I liked San Diego, why not?”
Moving out of state
Started OF
10x my income in 3 months
Finding out what *didn’t* work” - Traveled to find happiness (not even Hawaii worked)
**CHANGE**
flashback
full year of “proving” myself to my parents/self: made the money then realized it didn’t fulfill me so I hit a HARD wall
Hitting a wall
got ghosted by a guy (found self-worth on a new level)
“He’s just not that into you #fml”
pivoted from TikTok “entertainer” to helping people on their healing journey
“Take it back now, y’all”
flashback
full year of “proving” myself to my parents/self: made the money then realized it didn’t fulfill me so I hit a HARD wall
Hitting a wall
got ghosted by a guy (found self-worth on a new level)
“He’s just not that into you #fml”
pivoted from TikTok “entertainer” to helping people on their healing journey
“Take it back now, y’all”
more about me.
From a young age, I’ve been asked, “How are you so wise?”. I would laugh internally. I’m “wise” because I was in pain and I knew that I could either 1) stay in this pain forever or 2) find a way to fixing it. I didn’t start the self-development journey because I was born a genius, I started it because of my *core* human need to belong. I do give myself credit for *continuing* this path + choosing to actually take action rather than soaking up the pain; however, the start of the journey was 100% motivated by my loneliness.
I’ve always had a passion of helping others feel confident in themselves. As I’ve learned what it takes to become *truly* confident, I am now deeply passionate about helping others heal their wounds. I believe that self-confidence comes from healing which leads to true freedom. What a beautiful world it would be if we all worked on healing our wounds and could have a deeper sense of belonging as an effect of that?
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